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Thursday, November 08, 2007

Forever Family Day


Abbey and I went out to celebrate our one year anniversary yesterday at the wonderful Chen's Restaurant. We had Chen's fried rice and fried soft noodles that include beef, chicken, shrimp, and veggies. Abbey did great with her chopsticks! She was so happy to sit in a booster seat, she does not want highchairs when we are out and about any more but she'll do it for me at home because I insist.
This has been the best year of my life and the joy and excitement continue day by day. Our new nightly routine is singing Skidamirink-a-dink-a-dink, I Love You LOUD over and over. I am fully aware of the difficult times many have had with adjustments and bonding, my heart really goes out to those families, so I hesitate sometimes posting our experience out of respect for them. But can I just say...it hasn't been that way for us, it's been wonderful. I kept thinking it was a honeymoon phase, but I really know in my heart that it's our reality. I sometimes feel that it will bother people that I'm not more "real" or don't have tons of struggles to share, but the truth is we are So Happy. Maybe it's waiting all those years, but the hard things about being a single mom that I prepared for don't seem hard in the light of Abbey Zhuozhuo.

40 Comments:

  • At 7:11 AM, Blogger Kelly S. said…

    We still remember the baby they handed over to you on Gotcha Day. Her nose was red from crying and her eyes were filled with tears. She looked like she was just slumped on your hip as you carried her around for the first time.

    Our Kelly has been a hand full and we think she will proudly carry that for the rest of her life.

    On our trip we had wondered why the single Mom's were given children that were a little older and why we had been given the youngest, smallest baby.

    After a couple of days we knew why. We had been matched with Kelly because a single Mom could not have handled her.

    DaDa said God knew that it would take two to handle Kelly. She is a very curious child, a climber (which we know the orphanage did not like) and is a huge squirmy wiggle worm.

    We remember most of the families telling us, "You got such a calm baby!" DaDa's response being, "We checked the box on the form for a calm baby. Didn't you?"

    Kelly is still calm when other people are around. It's like it is show time or something.

    When we got Kelly it took three people to change her diaper, mind you there were only two of us there to change her. God certainly has a great sense of humor (tee hee!)

    We have come a long way. We are so happy to have met you and your little Abbey.

    Juliet, Lee and Kelly too!

     
  • At 7:34 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    What a wonderful family you are! I understand the happiness thing completely. It doesn't mean you are without challenges it just means they don't matter in the scheme of how wonderful things are with you and Abbey. Congrats!

     
  • At 8:34 AM, Blogger Unknown said…

    Congratulations on your first of many happy years together! You are a natural mom if I ever saw one!

    Teresa

     
  • At 9:23 AM, Blogger RamblingMother said…

    Congrats on your 1year. Hard to believe huh? If you guys had an easier time attaching it could be because you prepared for the worst so everything in light of is easy. Blog about it because it is your reality. The single parenting is the hard part. It is nice to read the rainbow dreams can be reality too. Abbey is such a blessing to you and you to her.

    Beverly

     
  • At 9:48 AM, Blogger k1 said…

    Christy, I missed the "Gotcha" moments because I was with Grace, and I was gone seeing pandas the next two days, but I recall the doubt-but-determination you had with Abbey, especially when she wasn't feeling well.

    I was impressed with you when you were a brand new mommy, and I'm even more impressed with you now that your an old-hand at it!!

    Abbey absolutely glows with health and happiness, and, even though we don't see many pictures of YOU, I'll bet you do too.

    Happy Anniversary.

     
  • At 10:42 AM, Blogger Robin said…

    Happy one year together. You deserve to be able to share with everyone that things are going well. You shouldn't feel guilty about that. You and Abbey were meant for each other and God has blessed you in more ways than one for your obedience in following him and his plans for you. :0) I'm so happy for both of you!

     
  • At 11:04 AM, Blogger Truly Blessed said…

    Christy,

    You don't need to apologize for the "easy" time you've had with Abbey -- she'll be a challenge at 16, and then you'll see what others went through at 2!!

    Abbey is so incredibly beautiful. Like Kelly S.'s folks, I was there to see the sobbing little girl who sat on your lap at the Civil Affairs office, and the bewilderment on your face as you wondered if you could "do" it. I am so glad that BOTH of you perservered and became the family that you are today. You two are perfect together, and our family wishes you another 60 wonderful years together - all as good as the first one.

    Give that little sweetheart a kiss from her 'sister' Katie. And Happy Anniversary to both of you!

     
  • At 12:49 PM, Blogger Catherine said…

    Congrats on one year together! I'm SO HAPPY that things have gone so well for you! I'm sorry that you feel you cannot always share as you want to. This is your blog so you should be able to share as you wish.

    I appreciate you. You are an encouragement for those of us still waiting. As a single-mommy-to-be..thank you!

    Blessings, Catherine

     
  • At 1:19 PM, Blogger Special K said…

    Happy 1 Year Together!

    I think it makes it easier when you want something so bad and you wait so long for it. Because like Julie said the challenges just don't matter as much.
    :)

     
  • At 2:01 PM, Blogger Kelley said…

    Congratulations on your one year anniversary! I'm so happy that you have had such a joyous first year together...you had quite a row to hoe before you got to "Gotcha Day," and you have truly been blessed!

     
  • At 3:36 PM, Blogger C's Mom said…

    I can hardly believe it has been a wonderful full year together already.

    You had your struggles and worry before your girl arrived in your arms. It's time for you to have a nice long stretch of being wonderfully happy.

     
  • At 4:41 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Wow, congratulations Christi and Abbey! I can't believe a year has gone by already and that I have followed your story pre-Abbey. I think it's wonderful that you are both so happy and life is moving along as it should! Helps allay some of my worries about becoming a single mom that I have so much time to think about. Thank you for sharing and Happy Family Day! Love, Dale

     
  • At 4:55 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Dear Christi: Happy Anniversary to you and Abbey. Does she know what the anniversary is for? Look back on your blog and you will see that times were not all that easy--how about the keys in the storm drain? Some people adjust a little better than others and a lot of that depends on their personality. I think that truly bless may have it right--wait and see when she is 16?!!? You waited and were patient for the desire of your heart and God blessed you with Abbey for it!
    Lots of Love and Prayers!

     
  • At 5:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    congrat's on your 1 year together. i've followed your journey and read your blog all the time. i've watched your wonderful daughter just blossom with your love. the 2 of you were meant for each other. you should blog about your life, it let's everyone know that there are more postives then negatives and can only help them. i'm praying that when my daughter donna (waiting for lauren elizabeth) finally meets her daughter she has the same experience you have had....linda

     
  • At 6:43 PM, Blogger Joannah said…

    Happy anniversary! You deserve all the joy and happiness you two can experience together. Enjoy!

     
  • At 6:45 PM, Blogger Lucky Mama said…

    Congrats on your amazing and fun-filled year together. May it be just as joyfull as this past year!

    /karen

     
  • At 8:15 PM, Blogger Scott and Kim said…

    Congratulations on your First Family Day! So happy you have had a wonderful first year with your little cutie!

     
  • At 8:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
    Love,
    Michelle and Courtney

    (we still want to meet her!)

     
  • At 9:11 PM, Blogger Deb said…

    Happy 1st family day to both of you! Congratulations!

     
  • At 9:24 PM, Blogger Angel said…

    Happy anniversary! It has been the best year ever hasn't it?! In a way it seems our day was yesterday but in another way it seems a lifetime ago.

    Don't apologize for being so happy... that is what you both deserve. We have been very blessed with Gracie's bonding too. She amazes us every day.

     
  • At 9:35 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Don't ever apologize for your joy!
    I LOVE reading your updates- I love your unabashed and continual amazement and wonder at the life you share with your daughter- we feel the same and I always relate to you. Your journey to Abbey was profound and not without challenges and I am so glad that you two are a family now.
    Congratulations and many many happy years together.
    We send our love,
    K & T xx

     
  • At 10:19 PM, Blogger Sylvia said…

    I've enjoyed following your blog for the last year. So happy for you and your precious Abbey.

     
  • At 10:25 PM, Blogger M3 said…

    Aw, congratulations to you both. What a wonderful, happy anniversary. And feel free to share all the happiness you can! It sure gives me a lift (particularly needed when I'm in the middle of toddler sleep issues), so thank you.

     
  • At 5:20 AM, Blogger kitchu said…

    Happy Forever Family Day! Love that pic, she is so adorable. And post away about how life is with your girl, everyone's experience is different and we learn so much from each other. This is your blog after all! :O)

     
  • At 8:28 AM, Blogger kerri said…

    Never hesitate , not one little bit about how happy and well adjusted you life has been with Abbey. It's truly beautiful.

     
  • At 10:18 AM, Blogger Liz and Ava said…

    Happy Forever Family Day! I'm glad everything is going so well for you both.

     
  • At 10:30 AM, Blogger Thumbelina's Mom said…

    Happy Abbey Day! It's been a great year watching your beautiful daughter blossom!

     
  • At 11:50 AM, Blogger Global Girl said…

    Congrats you two :) Happy one year!

     
  • At 1:07 PM, Blogger Donna said…

    Happy happy anniversary! I can't believe it's been a year!

     
  • At 1:35 PM, Blogger Welshie said…

    What happened to the problems you thought were there when you had her medical information? Was the information wrong? I am so glad that you have had such a happy time. You deserve it so much.

    Love

    Debbie

     
  • At 2:55 PM, Blogger Joanne said…

    HAPPY ONE YEAR ~ I've been following you a loooong time and I am happy that this past year has been WONDERFUL - you deserve it :)

     
  • At 5:11 PM, Blogger RoLo said…

    Happy Forever Family Day

     
  • At 5:11 AM, Blogger Dori's Mommy (Diana) said…

    Happy Day!e

     
  • At 7:29 AM, Blogger Paulette said…

    Happy Anniversary. You give me so much hope that my little girl no matter how old she is will love me as much as Abbey loves you. I have learned so much from you this past year and before I want to thank you for sharing what you can.

     
  • At 9:37 AM, Blogger Our Journey To Eden said…

    Congratulations on your first year together! Abbey has brought joy and hope to so many people. I am so happy for you.

     
  • At 9:47 AM, Blogger Abby's Mom said…

    Awesome post! Happy one year as a forever family! You both are truly blessed :)

     
  • At 6:41 PM, Blogger Tamara said…

    Well said. I feel exactly the same way. Happy forever family day, Abbey looks so proud of her chopstick skills :) I'm really looking forward to our anniversary later this month, I still get emotional when I look at Miya and think about our journey to each other and how it seems like we have always been together.

     
  • At 6:42 PM, Blogger Eileen said…

    Congrats on your first year! I know it is hard to believe - but it will just get better every year. Single motherhood has its pros and cons - but looking back I wouldn't have wanted it any other way because then I wouldn't have my daughter. Give Abbey a big hug! We are so happy for you both.

    Eileen & Liligrace

     
  • At 2:42 AM, Blogger Diana said…

    I can not believe I have been reading your blog for over a year now:)
    Thanks for sharing all your Abbey storys with us. She is BEAUTIUL. I can not believe how she has grown the last year.
    You are a GREAT mama.

     
  • At 10:39 AM, Blogger Calico Sky said…

    Happy Happy One year C, I am simply elated for you both!

     

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